“I’ve learned that (sex) can remain wonderful even as you get to be my age. –Jane Fonda
Most of us remember the old days, when we actually went out on a date and maybe kissed: first base. After the next date or two the couple might advance to French kissing and breast touching: second base. Oral sex: third base. After a commitment, intercourse: a home run!
Today, there’s “speed dating”. And “hooking-up” can be a first and only date. Couples “hook-up” at any age. We have a highly sexualized culture.
But, speed dating and hooking up do not afford the growth of trust and emotional intimacy. But, SLOW SEX does.
If you are interested in a long-term relationship, think about SLOW SEX.
The SLOW SEX game, heightens the sexual anticipation, excitement and romantic passion. You get to know your partner and can avoid a risky relationship. But, it’s really important to discuss the rules. If you don’t, a fast moving new friend might feel totally rejected, when that’s not at all what you wanted. You must assure your new friend that you like him, but just want to play SLOW SEX. Research has shown that couples that have sex within the first 30 days of knowing each other have almost a 90% chance of failing as a couple with in a year.
Couples in their sixties have a lot of baggage to unload. It doesn’t happen over night. And at the same time, there’s not a lifetime to work things out. In your sixties, no one ever wants to waste time, either. Does it pay to keep “hooking-up”?
Fast moving relationships do not allow the time necessary for you to develop trust and “emotional” intimacy–the stuff that keeps a long-term relationship going strong for a very long time, maybe forever.